Episode one of the podcast is me chatting to my best friend Laura about her wedding to Ben. They married in 2012 at the Chateau du Ludaix in France. Perhaps one of the most beautiful places I have stayed at a wedding. The Chateau is own and run by Stephanie Holland and David Morton. Two wonderful hosts who made Ben and Laura’s wedding so personal and fun. The Chateau can be hired with accommodation for 27 people and David and Stephanie can help secure local accommodation close to the Chateau for your guests.
Ben and Laura got engaged in the spring of 2011 and spent just over a year planning their day. As Laura talked about on the podcast they decided to have an international wedding as the Chateau was a special place for them both. There were of course a few issues in marrying overseas. To legally get married in France you need to be resident there for 6 weeks ahead of the wedding. Do check the legality of your wedding if you choose to get married abroad. Check out the .Gov website for advice on marriage abroad.
Laura asked me to be her Chief Bridesmaid as one of her closet friends but also as I am an organiser. There were a lot of evenings spent looking at spreadsheets with them (I say them, I really mean Ben) and working out how the day will run. From the point of view of the guest, they knew that I was the contact person for the day of the wedding. Ben and Laura didn’t need to be hassled with anything. I knew exactly what they wanted so could solve any issues that appeared during the day.
Laura and Ben relied on their friends to make their day as special as possible. They are incredibly fortunate to have some very talented friends. Katie Hillier designed the engagement and wedding rings, hair pieces and veil; Henry Holland designed the dress; Adam Reed did the hair and Cameron McNee did the photos. It was lovely to have some of her dearest friends involved in those elements. Of course not all of us have an award winning fashion designer as a best pal but no doubt there will be friends who can help with the day in their own way. Whether this be flower arranging, designing the invitations, making a cake or photography. Ask if they would like to be involved. I’m sure they’ll want to help make your day as perfect as possible.
An overseas wedding can often fill a guest with dread. Must they use their holiday allocation for someone else’s wedding? It can be a drag. There are definitely ways in which you can reduce the stress on your guest for an overseas wedding, like Ben and Laura did.
Firstly, give your guests as much notice as possible. Let them know what you’re planning so they can begin to think about how that fits with their own holiday plans. Let them know the logistics. What is the closest airport? Who flies there? Do they need to hire a car? Are there other guests they can buddy up with to save on costs? Booking the flight at a bargain rate is certainly going to lure more guests to come celebrate with you.
Plan the accommodation. If you have hired a chateau like Ben and Laura did work out who is staying there and who else needs accommodation near by. Ben and Laura were lucky in that most of their friends were able to stay in a youth hostel style accommodation with private rooms and en suite. It was cost effective and within walking distance of Chateau du Ludaix. Try and get a deal with a local hotel or B&B close by so guests have somewhere accessible to stay at a sensible price. Also suggest a number of other places for people to stay that fit multiple budgets and types of groups. What a single person wants will of course differ to a family of four.
Ben and Laura were conscious that people were having to spend more than normal to attend a wedding in France. As such they didn’t encourage people to buy gifts. This was a very sensible thing to do as it removed some financial pressure from guests. Try and find ways that you can reduce the financial pressure on your guests. Although I have no doubt they will all still buy you gifts it is a psychological mind set of offering them the option to save something.
Following Ben and Laura’s a group of us stayed in the Chateau for a week and had a lovely holiday. This was a mixture of their friends and family and was a great way to keep the celebration going before they headed off on honeymoon. See who wants to turn the wedding into a vacation and get people signed up!