My dear friend Julia has been a bridesmaid 8 times. Yes, 8 times. She has a wardrobe full of dresses that would rival Katherine Heigl in 27 Dresses. In episode 3 of the podcast I chat to her about her experiences of being a bridesmaid and what advice and tips she would share about being a bridesmaid.
After the bride the most visual members of the wedding party are, of course, the bridesmaids. They’re often dressed in the same outfit as each other, arrive with the bride and have often taken a hand in organising the day. There is no denying they are a crucial part of the wedding day.
Julia has lived in the US and the UK so has experienced weddings on both side of the Atlantic. She has organised hen dos, bridal showers and worn nine outfits for her eight weddings. But Julia still loves being a bridesmaid and has really enjoyed being apart of her close friend’s big day.
When being asked to be a bridesmaid it is not just a case of turning up on the day, holding posey, wearing a matching dress and waiting for the compliments to roll in. If you’re taking your role seriously you will be organising the hen do, helping keeping things run smoothly on the big day and probably helping keep the bride cool, calm and collected.
The big decision for bridesmaids and the bride will probably be the dress. No doubt the bride has an idea of what she wants and how it will match her dress and the feel of the day. It would be unusual for the bride to want her dearest friends to look below par on the day so work together to pick the best dress possible. It is probably good to have a chat about who is going to pay for the dress. Decide this from the get go and let everyone involved know. If you want your bridesmaids to pay for their dress it is probably a good idea to discuss realistic budgets.
There are many options for bridesmaid dresses. For my friend Laura’s wedding we used Maids to Measure who make bespoke dresses but there are some amazing options on the high street. And high street might be a great option if your bridesmaids are spread far and wide. For Clare’s wedding this summer I am living in London, her sisters are in Newcastle and she is in Jersey. Makes trying on dresses a little challenging as there are only a finite number of time we will be together pre the Big Day.
The other key element of being a bridesmaid is planning the hen do. The joy of hen do planning will be coming up on a future episode.